Struggling with Struggles

*This post is kind of a collaboration post with my dear friend *Bitchcakes*  This is a topic that is brought up to us a lot from people who follow us on Twitter and such and we felt is was important to address the subject here on our bloggy-blogs.  So of course, please go over to her blog post here to read her thoughts about the struggles we face once we reach goal*


Many, many times I have heard from people online AND in real life the following statement: 

“You mean, you still struggle after hitting your goal weight??” 

When people say that to me I am astonished!! I feel bad in a way because sometimes I just outright laugh.  But I can’t help it.  The fact that people would think to ask that kind of blows my mind.  But then again, I guess I used to wonder the same damn thing too huh.  

Here’s a secret….Sssshhh, don’t tell anyone I told you OK...

When you hit your goal weight YOU STILL STRUGGLE!!

Crazy right?!?!  Who would’ve thunk?!

Sure, maybe as a Lifetime Weight Watcher member I don’t FREAK about what the scale says every week, or if I had too much sodium the night before a weigh-in, or allow myself that extra ninth beer.  But you have to remember something…
Losing weight is not the answer to what the real problems are.  Not fitting into a size 8 jean is not the problem, the problem is what GOT you into not being able to fit into that size 8 (and that’s more than just stuffing your mug with some pizza pie).

Unfortunately, when you step on the scale and it shows that magical # that you have been working oh so hard for, all of your “issues” and struggles do not disappear. When you step back off that scale, you still have to be just as aware of your actions (or non-actions) as you did before you saw that winning #. 

I still have to tell myself to not buy that brick of cheese.
I still have to force myself to get to the gym on some (ok lately, most) days.
I still have to tell myself that choosing the multigrain bread over the white is a much better choice.
I still have to say “OK Suzi, just one more beer….”And then STOP at that one (again, still a hard struggle).
I still get on the scale at home everyday to keep myself in check.
I still have to drink my water, eat my veggies, watch the carbs, watch the fats, choose the protein, watch the chocolate, stay away from the dip, light cheese please, dressing on the side, no croutons (I give them to Melanie :P), Ben & Jerry who??
I STILL have to TRACK what I eat!!

OK, so here comes the uber cliché part but….this is a lifestyle, not a diet. And a lifestyle is something that you DO…everyday, every hour, every minute.  Choices are abundant and they are every where at all times.  You still have to be aware to make the “better” choice when you are at your goal weight.

You are never going to be “cured” from eating the whole brick of cheese in one sitting….you just know how to say “NO CHEESE, NO!” a lot easier.

In some cases (not to scare you here) but there are MORE struggles.  Like, how the hell do I maintain my weight loss now?!?!  What is this new body and what do I do with it??  Why is it that I’ve lost 101 lbs, but gained a couple back and all of a sudden I feel like a huge blob, yet I’m under goal weight & when I was at this weight 8 months ago I felt like Hedi Klum(please tell me I’m not crazy)??  Every weight loss, big or small, comes with it’s own set of “new struggles”.  But of course, these new struggles mean new learning’s which mean new self growth!!

The biggest thing I still struggle with?? Being consistent.  Consistent with my tracking, my running and of course, my beer (and by being consistent with beer, you all know I mean by NOT consistently drinking a 6 pack+ a night LOL).  I have to work on this everyday and I will have to for the rest of my life.  Sure, that sounds kinda sucky but I know that if I don’t I will just end up where I was 2 years ago…252 lbs and absolutely fucking miserable.  And that is a place I never want to be again, so I’m ok with struggling. 

The weight loss may come to an end, but the journey to a healthier and happier will always continue on. (Look for my inspirational greeting cards to hit the market any day now) 


  1. OMG Suzi, I love your version! I agree with everything you said and like that it kind of hits the subject from a different angle than mine. So happy to do this with you, great idea. Thank you. Have an awesome weekend, beautiful girl! xo

  2. I love this line: "Every weight loss, big or small, comes with it’s own set of “new struggles”." So true.

    Also, the bit about gaining a few back and feeling like a blob. I am totally there right now. Two years ago I'd have killed to be at my current weight, but because it's 3-4lbs up from my lowest, I feel HUGE! What is up with that?

    Great post.

  3. OMG!! you put so well into words what I feel every day!!!
    Especially lately! I was up 10 lbs and feeling so FAT, stupid right? It's almost all gone again....but it's so weird how the numbers look different now! and then I fell like a fraud when people say "how much did you lose?" and I know I'm up......but still say 115. Well, I DID lose it! I just keep re-finding some of it!

    Love you Suzi! (cuddle bear)and your honesty!!

  4. Well said! Have to agree. The struggle never ends for us foodies but WW does help. :)

  5. lol. You are so NOT crazy. The small weight gain I find way more noticeable simply because it is a larger percent of our total body weight now. There is a big difference between 5 pounds on someone who is 250 or 350 then there is on someone who 150. It's the difference of a size for some of us!

    I do have to say that while you might not think you will ever be cured... Maintenance (imho) is not and does not need to be a forever struggle. I noticed a HUGE difference in how I felt about food and maintaining around years 4 and 5 and since then it really just has been my life. You do anything long enough and new habits form, they become your new normal. Just like over eating was normal so is healthy eating. It happens... just takes time.

    Great post.

  6. Bravo! I am a WW Lifetime Member and a Program Leader. This is the number one point I try to get across, especially with our new members. If you look at this like a lifestyle, then you look at it as a permanent choice. I live the same lifestyle any members does, I just get to eat 5 more points per day to maintain. Yes there is struggle, but it eases as new habits go into play. There seem to be a few things that consistently gnaw at my resolve...topping the list is my love for Pinot Grigio! Hang in there. It's worth the struggle cause nothing tastes as good as healthy and slim feels!

  7. Yes, it's not just about "moving more and eating less" there's also the emotional barriers and self-sabotaging ways that will always need working on.

  8. Love this post...this is something that I never reall excepted the first time I lost weight and probably the reason I gained most of it back, I wasn't willing to believe I would be doing this forever. Thanks for another great post

  9. Thank you!!! It is a struggle every day. I still weight and measure and track every day. I spent too dang many years as the big girl, and she is just a few bags of chips away!!! Well said!!! I love this post!!!

  10. Great post! The part about gaining a few pounds and feeling bad when 8 months ago you felt awesome about it really resonated with me. I've been going through that. I gained seven pounds in two weeks, and the number on the scale horrified me, even though I was thrilled with that same number three months ago. I thought I was crazy. I am coming to terms with the idea that I will always need to be aware of my food behaviors. Always. It takes a bit of getting used to the idea. Again, great post.

  11. Telling it the way it is....great post!

  12. Wonderful post. I'm so glad I have always looked at my journey as a lifestyle change just not a temporary part in my life.

  13. I loved your post, and admire how motivated you (and bitchcakes) are!!! When you first started your journey, what helped you the most in maintaining that motivation?

    I have a couple of (alright--a few) issues, and dealing with pain is number one. I was already struggling with just leaving my house, when my physical therapist tells me walking is NOT the exercise for me. GREAT, I say. She says a good exercise for me is riding a bicycle. NICE, but I don't know how to ride a bike! (But, I must say, I'd LOVE to go on a bike ride with bitchcakes when I finally do learn!!! That would be fantastic!)

    I tell myself that eventually, I'll begin to do something about my weight, and hopefully that day will come soon. I'm currently at 247 lbs. and my weight exacerbates the other issues. While I have made some small changes (just a tiny list), I think my health issues need to be resolved first. Aside from that, I know that motivation and patience (with the process and with myself) will be my biggest hurdles. Perfect example--I have pages of exercises I should be doing for my lower back and knees, but I fare better when I have to go to PT than doing the exercises at home.

    Keep up the awesome work, and thank you for sharing!

  14. This is a GREAT post. Thank you for your words and your wisdom. Love the photo - I'm a fan of both of your blogs. Have a great Monday.

  15. I love this post! I follow Sheryl's blog (love that one too!) and I got to yours from her's...

    Anyway, I have lost 100 pds...not at goal, but maintaining for about 5-6 yrs and it's still a daily struggle.

  16. I just discovered your blog through Bitchcakes, and I'm so glad I did! I had some success with Weight Watchers 2 years ago, lost 30 pounds, then fell into a difficult emotional time with the death of my dear aunt. I piled back on all 30 pounds in 2010, but now I am truly recommitted. Finding stories like yours really helps keep me motivated! I also love that you love beer...I love earning APs when it means I can drink more of my favorite IPAs!

  17. Great post! You are both such inspirations.

    I just hope I manage to get to the point where I can "Maintain".

    Much Love x

  18. Sure, maybe as a Lifetime Weight Watcher member I don’t FREAK about what the scale says every week, or if I had too much sodium the night before a weigh-in, or allow myself that extra ninth beer.

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